5 Ways to Be Your Own Valentine

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Happy Valentine's Day lovely people! I personally think that every day should be filled with LOVE... so making one special day to celebrate all things romantic is a little bit silly but fun nevertheless. 

Sean and I have been thinking a lot about romance + relationships recently since we wrote our manuscript for Hay House about LOVE (and another secret topic) and because we're about to launch a Twin Flames compilation book in the Adventures In Manifesting series. We've found that there is one underlying theme to attracting true love into your life. 

Whether you're single or have a lover then it's important to love you first. Without a healthy level of self love and acceptance then you will most likely be needy, high maintenance, ungrateful and not very present. Not very attractive right? I know this because I've lived it before. 

Expectations will only poo on your parade. So let go and let LOVE!

Here are 5 Ways to Be Your Own Valentine

♥ Accept that YOU are responsible for your own happiness and it's a choice in every moment.

♥ Be present + be grateful for the reality you have created for yourself. 

♥ Treat yourself to a massage, buy yourself a beautiful gift or a bunch of flowers. Spoil yourself rotten!

♥ Read the beautiful love poems of RUMI to inspire you or read my chapter on self-love in Adventures In Manifesting : Health and Happiness. 

♥ Meditate and feel divine love. That's the real juice behind this life thing we're all experiencing at the moment. 

♥ (Bonus) Watch this beautiful Abe-Hicks video to inspire you below...

With LOVE + Valentine's Day Smooches,

 

6 Ways to Feel Better Right Now

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Today I thought I'd randomly list off 6 Ways to Make You Feel Better Right Now.

Here goes...

1. Drink plenty of water.

It's so important that you stay hydrated. People often drink more coffee and fizzy drinks than they do H20. Here in Australia it's Summer, so you should aim to drink around 2 litres of water per day. It makes your skin glow, your brain feel more alert and your poo regime run more smoothly. Enough said, drink up!

2. Feel grateful to be alive.

A wonderful, brave man died this week. His name was Kristian Anderson and he had an wife and two amazing boys. He gained global media attention by making the most beautiful video tribute for his wife. He also was an Angel that did so much to help raise awareness for the prevention of Cancer. Watch it now...it will make you feel very grateful for being alive today. WARNING: You'll need a tissue because I cried so much after watching this. 

3. Do some shufflin' 

Every day I'm shufflin'. Sean and I LOVE (love,love,love) LMFAO. Our exercise on some days is turning up the speakers as loud as they will go and listening to dance music. We dance like crazy people around our office and the kids join in too. It's a great way to get the blood pumping, let yourself go and feel the fun of being silly. Life is too short not to dance every day. 

4. Random acts of kindness.

You know what would be cool? If you gifted someone an eBook on Amazon.com. The Kindle books are only a couple of bucks and you can send it through with one simple click. Adventures In Manifesting is a great book to share with someone (wink,wink). All you do is click on the 'give as a gift' button.

Giving to others in Random Acts of Kindness will make you feel awesome. You don't have to spend money to give either. Open the door for someone, let someone go ahead of you in the supermarket or pick someone some flowers. Giving will make you feel like a million bucks within minutes. 

5. Tell people you love them.

Even if it's just in your head, spend a few moments to send love to the people that you adore. I tell my kids each and every day that I love them. Freely expressing love means that the special people in your life feel cherished. You'll feel a great sense of calm when you're feeling loving. 

6. Put on some make-up.

If you don't like make-up then that's cool, but it's one of my favourite things. I adore make-up! The packaging draws me in and I feel like I'm getting beautiful art materials to put on my face. If you want to feel better right now, go and put on some lipstick or lip gloss. Or better yet, put on some mascara! Think of new and creative ways you can apply your make-up too. I remember watching Oprah once and she found women that hadn't changed the way they put on their make-up for 15 years! It's fun to experiment with revamping the way you usually do things. 

Watch this awesome video tutorial below about how create a super-sexy 'smokey eye' by Tarina Tarantino. 

I hope these 6 ideas help you to feel better now. Please feel free to share this post (using the buttons below) to share the love!

Love Sarah xx

Do you think you're fat?

The beautiful Marilyn Monroe

Imagine if there was a magical mirror that could you tell you the precise amount of times you have looked into it and said: ‘I look fat’ or ‘I’m so fat’.

What would the number be? Do you think it would be a hundred times in the last year? Perhaps more? Today, I’m inviting you think about what your internal dialogue does to your brain and the beautiful cells in your body.

Have you ever tried on clothes in a boutique and given yourself permission to self-loathe because the dress doesn’t look good on you? Do you compare yourself to other people and think they’re better than you because they’re thinner?

I’m pretty sure we can blame the media for the way we feel right? Nope. That’s bullshit.

The model pictured below is Lizzie Miller. She was labelled as ‘too fat’ to be a model and this caused a giant crap-storm online from people and their reactions. This picture was printed on page 194 of Glamour magazine and was super-obvious how real women want to see more pictures of real woman.

Lizzie Miller

My advice is that you don’t allow yourself to get sucked into ideals anymore and feel grateful for your body.

You need to create your own ideals that are based on health and happiness. It’s your internal reaction and beliefs about body image that sculpts the way you see the world. You have control and power over your reactions and how to choose to absorb visual information. All magazines use Photoshop to tweak the images - don't be fooled!

Comparing yourself to others can lead to things like Body dysmorphic disorder (BDD). It is a psychological disorder that causes the affected person to become overly concerned about perceived quirks in his/her body image.

When I was 22 I went through a phase of being Bulimic. After the birth of my son I discovered cellulite on my thighs for the first time in my life. I was sitting on the floor with my legs crossed and felt this weird bumpy skin bulging out. I must have really hated myself during this time, but I was blissfully unaware how much I was harming my body. I would binge eat alone and then spew…which is not very pretty.

I would feel this awesome sense of refreshed euphoria after I’d vomit that became really quite addictive.  **Please note: I had Post Natal Depression that contributed to all of this self-hatred. By the time I was 23, the pain lifted and left for a while - but that’s a story for another day, or you might have already read this one.

I’ve never really been ‘fat’ and I don’t think 83 kilograms the day I gave birth to my daughter in 2006 really counts. All I know is that I've never felt perfect. Even when I dropped down to 47 kilos I had a little voice in my head telling me I wasn’t good enough. What changed? I started to become grateful. Gratitude has huge transformational powers. We're all going to die one day. I've had at least 4 friends die in the last year. Deathof a loved one is a great method to snap you out of self-indulgent bullshit. 

What I know now is that life is too short to not embrace being the healthiest and happiest version of you that you can be. You’ve got to learn how to spend your energy wisely and make empowering choices now and for your future.

No more beating yourself up and being nasty to yourself okay? Stand guard and the doorway of those thoughts and bless them with LOVE when they land in your brain. You have the power to do this.

Love yourself. Today’s the day! Start now.

Love, love, love

Sarah xx

Affirmation of Self Love

I thought this might be a great way to start a theme of self-love for 2012. 

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Love Sarah xx